“...being at war with your body is so last season…” said Camila Cabello as she shut down body shamers.
Living in a world ruled by social media standards is so yesterday. It is time you begin to accept yourself for who you are, especially your body. Yes, this is surely a daunting task, but start by remembering the "perfect" body does not exist. Everyone has their scars and insecurities, whether it is cellulite, stretch marks or even freckles. There is always something we do not love about ourselves, and if we search for it, we will always have something to complain about. Maybe you don’t like your eye color, maybe you have a mole somewhere on your face. Instead of thinking about how insecure it makes you feel, think about how YOUnique it makes you. To others it becomes a reminder of who you are, it makes it easy to identify you and your uniqueness. Think about how amazing your body is, the things it is capable of letting you do in the future and the things it has already gotten you through in the past.
While all of this sounds ideal and simple, many of us have a much more complicated relationship with our body image. I have been through my personal body battle and come to quite a few realizations, the most important being that finding what motivates you, exercising, eating healthier, reading about how to boost your mood or simply following body positivity accounts on social media, is what truly makes a difference.
Unfortunately there will always be body shamers or someone that does not always have something nice to say. This is probably present in many of our minds, coming off of the trending "hot girl summer". If you went to the beach and wore your favorite bathing suit or bikini and you want to share a post but are worried of what others might say, then maybe you should turn off comments on your post. Social platforms like Instagram are allowing the user to TAKE BACK CONTROL of their own profiles and subsequently their mental health. This has been a helpful tool for me in my journey, knowing I have power over the heartless internet trolls. Besides, “every body is a swimsuit body,” as said in Netflix’s Dumplin.
Another reminder that has changed my mindset, even your favorite (seemingly perfect) TV star or musicain has doubts and insecurities. These celebrities are always being followed by fans or paparazzi and constantly have to speak up when they see a photo circulated on social media that wasn’t flawless. Camila Cabello is one of the many celebrities that I admire speaking up in defense of herself and her body.
“I was just running in the park minding my own business trying to be fit, trying to keep it healthy and I’m wearing a top that shows my belly and I wasn’t tucking it in,” Cabello said in her Tik Tok. “Because I was running and existing like a normal person that doesn’t tuck it in all the time.”
I have always complained about my looks, especially my belly. I often got upset when I saw a public figure’s body and I compared myself. I questioned why I didn’t look like that. But as I have progressed in my journey and found myself lost in comparison, I remind myself of these few things. Many celebrities can afford to get their bodies fixed, especially when they are constantly on television or social media. I'm sure MANY people out there are dying for that nose job, but the average person does not always have the means to do so. Second of all, celebrities often have their own personal trainers and nutritionists. We may not have the access to the most intense, famous trainers but we all have access to YouTube! Find a workout you like on YouTube, there are lots of choices from Yoga to ab workouts, you name it. As far as the "celebrity diet", I will be the first to tell you, you CANNOT hold yourself to any ridiculous standard or your habits will not be sustainable. All of the dieting fads aside, just find what works for YOU and your lifestyle. Ease into having one healthier meal a day, then two, then eventually a full day of clean eating. Creating a sustainable healthy lifestyle is truly the key.
In the words of Camila Cabello, “And I was like, ‘Damn.’ But then I reminded myself being at war with your body is so last season, I am grateful for this body that lets me do what I need to do,” continued Cabello in her Tik Tok. “We are real women with curves and cellulite and stretch marks and fat. And we gotta own that, baby…”
With all this being said, many of us have put on a few extra pounds in quarantine, including your favorite celebrities. Jennifer Garner is one of many celebrities to be asked if she was expecting a baby after she posted a video on her social media page, last year. She quickly shut down rumors with this comment saying, “I am 48, have three healthy kids, and am not — and never will be — pregnant, we can lay that pupper to rest.” Garner continued in the comment with, “Have a gained the Covid 19? Possibly. But that is another story.”
Remember to be kind to yourself. It is easy for comparison to edited and currated social media posts to get in our heads. If you do want to lose weight, do it for yourself. If you want to go vegan, do it for yourself. If you want to start daily workouts, DO IT FOR YOURSELF.
I am beginning to look at my body in the mirror and I smile at it. I do a little dance, but we won’t talk about that. Celebrate your body!
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Tatiana Ramierez is an amazing member of our IQ Network.
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