What I Learned from Cosmopolitan’s Fun Fearless Life Conference
This blog post was written by Intern Queen Campus Ambassador Laurise McMillian from the University of Baltimore.
When the Girls’ Life magazine interns and I heard that Cosmopolitan was throwing a 2-day conference, we knew this only meant one thing: girls weekend! The speakers included industry-celebs like Cosmo Editor-in-Chief Joanna Coles, Kelly Osbourne, Gabrielle Union and Nasty Gal’s Sophia Amoruso So naturally, my girls and I packed our bags, booked bus tickets, cut writing samples and even ordered business cards. We just knew something amazing would happen to us this weekend, and you know what? It did! Apart from a free Express phone-charging clutch, a $100 gift card I won in a social media challenge, free Maybelline swag AND a signed copy of Sophia Amoruso’s book, #GIRLBOSS – we all left with 5 completely life-changing lessons:
Be Physically Empowered
Psychologist, Amy J Cuddy introduced us to “power posing,” AKA the world’s best confidence secret. Her studies show that if you poke out your chest and stretch your hands to the sky for two minutes, then you will experience an instant ego boost (it really works!). Health experts, Tara Stiles and Jillian Michaels both discussed the importance of physical activity. Tara’s speech required the audience to participate in a few yoga poses, and I definitely felt more relaxed while talking to new people during the intermission.
Be Your Own Biggest Fan
Joanna Coles shared that there’s nothing better than hearing her employees say “don’t worry, I got this.” Whether it’s work, school, student organizations, etc. it’s important to truly believe that “you got this.” In order to be successful, you have to find the will to quiet those internal voices that make you doubt yourself. Kelly Osborne also really hit the nail on the head by saying, “You're never going to wake up and be somebody else. So you better figure out how to love yourself.” She says that everyday she strives to do at least one nice thing for herself.
Don’t Mind the Guys
FOX News Channel analyst, Megyn Kelly was basically crowned queen when Cosmo rolled a clip of her dominating a debate about working mothers. As the crowd clapped their applause, we all couldn’t help but be inspired. Sometimes being brave in a predominately male career is easier said then done, but Megyn Kelly says that being female can be an advantage. She says her gender makes her stand out in a room full of men!
Oh, and of course, it just wouldn’t’ be a Cosmo party if we didn’t talk about relationships. Bestselling author, Matthew Hussey spilled that guys aren’t looking for the needy girl or the overly independent girl. He suggests approaching men with an equal balance of personal strength and vulnerability.
Plan for the Future
As a 20-year-old I must admit that living in the moment is so exciting. Between random road trips and spontaneous dates with my boyfriend, enjoying the now is fun—but what’s next? CEO of Learn Vest Alexa von Tobel, says managing money in your twenties makes for a more comfortable life in the future. She taught us about the 50 20 30 rule: spend 50% of your income on essentials (like rent and food), 20% of your earnings in savings and spend the last 30% on whatever you want! CosmoBody expert, Adam Rosante suggests creating a plan to meet your goal – make a record of every single step you need to take, and cross them off one-by-one until you turn your dream into a reality!
Stand up for What You Believe in
As many people know, Gabrielle Union was one of hundreds of female celebs who were effected by the nude leak scandal. She spoke at Fun Fearless Life to share her story, and assure the public that this security breach is indeed a crime. Her courage to speak out and serve as an advocate truly inspired everyone to stay true to their beliefs.
Beverly Bonds, the creator of the Black Girls Rock organization to empower young female minorities, uses her business to find girls mentors and celebrate a culture that is too often underrepresented. As a young African-American female who has heard the words, “OMG you’re so pretty for a black girl” way too many times, it made me feel good about myself to know that there was a company out there who makes it their business to make black females feel like they are a priority.
Whether or not you attended the Fun Fearless Life conference, I hope you can find a way to apply these lessons and enrich your own awesome lives. Overall, I think it's safe to say this trip was a major success!