Where Does My Confidence Come From?

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Where Does My Confidence Come From?

Lately, I've been asked a lot about my confidence and where it comes from. I think it comes from a few different places:
 
1. My Family
 
2. My Friends
 
3. My Experiences
 
My family has encouraged me (for as long as I can remember) to put myself out there and to not take no for an answer. Whenever they read an article in the newspaper that they think I might be interested in, they tell me to reach out to the writer. Whenever they see someone on the Today Show that looks interesting, they tell me to try to contact them. They always encourage me to "try," even if it doesn't work out. They've always reminded me that the worst someone can say is no. And it's true. If the worst someone can say to you when you reach out to them is no, what are we so scared of?
 
My friends and I have been close for years. I'm the type of person who makes staying in touch with friends a priority. I've known most of my friends for over five years and because of that, we are very comfortable around one another. They know me (inside and out) and I can truly be myself around them. It's important to have a community of friends that you feel 100% comfortable around. When you are able to spend your social time being yourself, you become more confident in who you are and your personality. If your friends like you, you can't be that bad! My friends give me the confidence to take my personality out into the world and if they like me - great. If they don't like me - it's their loss.
 
I've had so many experiences (good and bad) that I've realized, it's okay to put yourself out there and be confident. Some situations are going to work out - and others aren't going to work out. I can face the world with confidence because I know I can be successful - I've been successful in the past.
 
As a college student (or a high school student), the best thing you can do to develop your confidence is to be yourself, surround yourself with people who appreciate you for you, and continue to put yourself out there (even if you feel a little shy or intimidated) and force yourself to tell people what you want to do and what you're passionate about. I promise - after many experiences - the confidence will come.